Online Dating

What is it with the "popularity" of online dating sites lately? Many of us know that there are many fraudulent users on such sites that attempt to make himself/herself appear a certain way believing/hoping that someone would actually search there and get a result that such person is a "perfect" match.

Maybe it is, maybe it's not. But certainly there does seem to be some psychological issues being raised here.

For one, many people tend to lie or stretch the truth a little about themselves. They sense a level of unease at their "true" selves; what they perceive themselves to be and or how it is perceived that other people view the individual.

In the end, it really should not matter as you are who you are, and it is virtually impossible to authentically change your personality & characteristics. Sure you might appear to behave a different way after some time, but most likely this change in behavior is a public persona; essentially an act that you put on for the duration of interacting or being physically present with a certain group of individuals.

Another issue here is that the internet is being used. That in itself should be a warning sign that the individual that is seeking another is not confident enough with his self but wants some kind of a relationship with another. The end goal is, by all means, is admirable, but the means by which; or more specifically the medium by which one is attempting to reach such said goal suggests many things.

Of the many things that it suggests, one is that the individual is uncomfortable with the self. If one can not be confident & comfortable with the self, how can one expect that another (who happens to be using the internet) will feel comfortable around the other and maybe even the self?

Is it not "true", for the most part, that in order to love you need to be able to love yourself? What do I mean?

Look at the phrase...

I LOVE YOU.

You need to be able to learn, accept, or understand what it means to love the self first, before being able to have the capacity to love another.

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eHarmony Advertisement
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q3e10FP2UyI

"...if I kept dating the same type of people, or you know, trying to meet them in the same places, I would have the same results."

In this commercial, we see a young man who claims that he had been dating the same type of people and, apparently, in the same place. The question here is, if this man had negative experiences (for what it seems many times), why would he continue to date in the same manner? Would it not seem logical to change something, for example, like where he found his dates?

That might be the whole point of eHarmony in the location, but the point is that online dating (though it may or may not work) has some issues with the person in the first place. And to be going to an internet source where, most likely, all users have the same or similar issues is a problem.

What do you think about this? Please comment below.